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Stop deleting your fb friends, dammit!

I love when I hear people dising facebook…love it!  Because then I get a chance to argue them down to the ground about it.  And I always win, because my position just makes sense.  I have a lot of friends.  In real life and on facebook.  I’m not saying it in a smug way, I give up a lot of “me time” to stay connected to these friends, both in real life and on my computer.  And I used to get hassled a lot for having a high number of facebook friends.  “Are they REALLY all your FRIENDS, Brianna?” people would ask me accusingly.  And to answer that question: no.  I don’t have coffee with all of them on any kind of regular basis, or even ever.  Some facebook friends I will never meet.  But I am connected to all of them.  I get a little window into their lives, and the potential for friendship is always there.  I use facebook as a tool to get to know people.  I have met some people it later turned out I didn’t want to know…yes, there are definitely some messed-up people out there.  One guy asked if I would kneee him in the nuts…one guy wrote some pretty nasty stuff about female anatomy on my wall…and I know a couple of girls who overshare their negative worldview; that can ware on you.  But overall, facebook has done for me what other technologies have claimed they would do, but have never delivered: connection.  I have had elementary school, and youth group reunions made possible by facebook…I have gone on dates with guys I knew years ago and never would have reconnected with otherwise.  I have found people I’d lost from my past and struck up new genuine friendships with them…I have met strangers who have become great friends.  I have made business deals and connections, gotten people to read this blog, and stayed in touch with family who live far away.  And this would not be at all possible without facebook. 

So if you’re one of the dissers…if you want to complain that facebook is a waste of time, an invasion of privacy, or a dumb concept: consider the possibility that you just have a bad attitude and are using it wrong.  The point of work, play, life in general are the connections we make.  And no matter what tool you’re using, if you decided you don’t like people, it will never, ever work for you.

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I like shopping at stores with one of a kind items, so I spend a lot of time at Goodwill and Antique Malls. I love Ambrosia salad, and refuse to eat perogies. Aside from my husband, my Mom is my very best friend even though I hated her off and on when I was a teenager. I believe you should know the reasons you do the things you do, and am constantly asking myself why I think, feel and behave the way I do in every situation. I'm probably a narcisist.

4 thoughts on “Stop deleting your fb friends, dammit!

  1. I agree completely.

    Everytime I read the newspaper articles, I want to write a lengthy editorial about how I get the chance to connect with people that I never would have. I get to talk to my friends in Seattle, Chicago, and England, all in one day. I love that I get to know some day-to-day details of these friends lives that I would otherwise only hear in a “once-a-year” catch-up, because its hard to get to all these places.

    Maybe we should team up and write an editorial together. I feel like hating facebook is pretty last year 🙂

  2. People that seem to dis facebook seem to be people that have no social skills to begin with…they’re the ones who sit in the corner at a party then tell everyone how boring it was.

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