Stop deleting your fb friends, dammit!
I love when I hear people dising facebook…love it! Because then I get a chance to argue them down to the ground about it. And I always win, because my position just makes sense. I have a lot of friends. In real life and on facebook. I’m not saying it in a smug way, I give up a lot of “me time” to stay connected to these friends, both in real life and on my computer. And I used to get hassled a lot for having a high number of facebook friends. “Are they REALLY all your FRIENDS, Brianna?” people would ask me accusingly. And to answer that question: no. I don’t have coffee with all of them on any kind of regular basis, or even ever. Some facebook friends I will never meet. But I am connected to all of them. I get a little window into their lives, and the potential for friendship is always there. I use facebook as a tool to get to know people. I have met some people it later turned out I didn’t want to know…yes, there are definitely some messed-up people out there. One guy asked if I would kneee him in the nuts…one guy wrote some pretty nasty stuff about female anatomy on my wall…and I know a couple of girls who overshare their negative worldview; that can ware on you. But overall, facebook has done for me what other technologies have claimed they would do, but have never delivered: connection. I have had elementary school, and youth group reunions made possible by facebook…I have gone on dates with guys I knew years ago and never would have reconnected with otherwise. I have found people I’d lost from my past and struck up new genuine friendships with them…I have met strangers who have become great friends. I have made business deals and connections, gotten people to read this blog, and stayed in touch with family who live far away. And this would not be at all possible without facebook.
So if you’re one of the dissers…if you want to complain that facebook is a waste of time, an invasion of privacy, or a dumb concept: consider the possibility that you just have a bad attitude and are using it wrong. The point of work, play, life in general are the connections we make. And no matter what tool you’re using, if you decided you don’t like people, it will never, ever work for you.
- Posted in: Manners